A lot of people say that getting married early is a “bad idea,” as if it means you’re somehow “missing out. ” and that one needs to “explore ” life before settling down.
More and more I’ve noticed a bias against people who get married early. People love to rush to judgement about two people who decides to marry as “Rushing in life”.
In the past, it was normal for women to be wed before they were 20, or even earlier. However, the standards of society have shifted, and now it seems like anyone who gets married before 25 is considered abnormal or irrational and foolish.
The stereotype is that people who get married young are old fashioned, ignorant, and probably going to get divorced. And I don’t really think that’s okay, or fair.
In fact, I think there are a lot of great benefits to getting married young, and I think that couples who tie the knot when they’re younger aged get a bum rap for absolutely no reason.
Here are some 8 reasons why I think marrying younger comes with a lots of benefits.
1. You grow up with each other
For most people who get married young, They get to develop together, and grow from childhood into adulthood together, and are uniquely suited to taking on the obstacles that life throws at you, together.
2. It’s easier to integrate yourselves with each other
When you get married young, you’re still deciding the person you want to be and how you want to live your life. Therefore, you don’t have a lot of deeply ingrained habits, attitudes, and patterns that you have to change and adjust to make room for each other.
Instead, your patterns and habits will grow out of the time you share with each other, rather than have to be changed for the other person. And the bond you form will only grow stronger.
3. You figure out the tough stuff early
When you get married early, you haven’t spent a decade or two looking forward to how “perfect” marriage is going to be when you get there. You still might have expectations, but they won’t have the weight of years of hope behind them.
That way, it’s easier to shoulder when life takes your expectations, spins them upside down, and smacks them into the sidewalk. You don’t have as much riding on them because you haven’t held them for nearly as long.
That makes it much easier to roll with life’s punches, and learn lessons about life, relationships, and marriage way earlier than most other people do.
4. Cheap weddings are expected
Come on, you’re young. No one’s expecting you to throw a huge wedding bash, and you get to save all that money.
5. You’re not as likely to be let down
For a lot of people, marriage is the holy grail that they’ve been waiting for all their lives. It’s about “the one” coming into their lives and making everything perfect, and it’s smooth sailing and happily ever after from here on out.
When you get married young, sure you might be idealistic, but you haven’t been building it up in your head for decades as “the thing that’s going to make your life perfect.” You don’t even know what life has in store for you yet, so your expectations aren’t going to be nearly as high.
6. You get to share a lot more achievements
As you get older, most people get more financially secure and start building better lives for themselves. When you get married late, often times a lot of the hard work has already been done, and thus the rewards have already been experienced.
But when you get married early, you get to go through all that progress, accomplishment, and achievement together. You get to experience what it’s like to live without roommates for the first time with each other, just like you get to see what it’s like to get promotions, or a much nicer place, or a new car together.
7. You share all your craziest memories
Most of the time, the wildest, most out there experiences you have come when you’re really young, full of excitement and energy and raring to meet the world. And you get to share those with each other.
And being part of each other’s crazest (and most embarrassing) memories only brings you closer together.
8. You have your whole lives ahead of you
Let’s look at it this way:
Worst case scenario, you grow into different people who aren’t compatible with each other anymore, realize it early, and wind up splitting up your marriage. And then you realize – hey, we’re still in our 20’s! We’ve got plenty of time!
On the other side, if things really do work out and continue to get better and better, you’ve got your whole lives ahead of you. You don’t have to regret the years you didn’t spend with each other – because you spent them all together. And you have a lifetime of happiness in front of you.
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